I’m
fat. It does not make me less of a person, as with anyone like me but there you are. I work out often and can do various
active and demanding things. However,
I’m fat. I’m seeking a way to be less
so. However, it would not serve my
purpose to deny the truth or otherwise, try to explain it in another way. There has been a recent discussion on the
notion of being fat and even a new concept – fat-shaming. It is an interesting look at a culture trying
to address something but trying to do so without specifically naming the
problem or the condition.
I’ve
hired a trainer and have recently tried to make a more serious effort to lose
weight. My problem is two-fold – I eat
horribly unhealthy and delicious food and I don’t work out enough. The problem clearly lies with me. I was once healthy and in shape but that was
some time ago. So, I seek a way to drop
the pounds for health and family reasons.
In short, I’d like to be with my family well into the future and at
present, I’m one steak dinner away from a full coronary. I have no excuse and there is little that
anyone can say to tell me otherwise.
However, in the last year or so, there has been a growing furor over the
nature of being fat and what to do about it.
Were
you aware there are a group of people who are trying to convince fat people
that it is ok to be so? They have
attacked others for actions they call fat-shaming. Most of what I’ve seen as examples of
fat-shaming seems more about the perpetrator being a jerk. What that has led to is a movement to have
people proudly love and accept their size.
Even the word “fat” is starting to take on the connotation of other
words directed at people for their race or ethnicity. What is being accomplished here? Are people mean? Sure and for many other reasons in addition
to seeing someone who is fat. Are people
well-intentionally ignorant? Yes and
particularly when confronted with something that is hurting someone they
love. So, if you take away the jerks and
the well-meaning friends or family, what are we talking about?
We
need an honest and frank discussion about size in this country, without the
hyperbole. Calls for healthier living
and weight levels are not calls for anorexia or bulimia or any other chase for
unhealthy weight standards. These
aforementioned activists have even attacked those who are making general calls
for healthier living, such as Maria Kang – the mother of three who seeks to encourage
others to get in shape. First Lady
Michelle Obama said that her push for healthier lunch items in school is not
about weight but about feeling better and healthier. Sure but if we cannot even say the condition
for fear of hurting feelings, we are not addressing the issues.
When
Amy Chua – Tiger Mom extraordinaire – called her daughter fat and lazy, I can’t
imagine that young lady ending up in therapy wondering about how others see her
and whether they respect her. She was
told upfront and there was never a doubt about it. Compare that to the teen who has been told,
“No, you are not fat. You are beautiful
and wonderful and people who don’t see that are not worth your time.” Deep down, however, the teen knows they are
fat but they are surrounded by people who won’t say it. Is there any wonder that emotional issues
develop?
Part
of the reaction by these activists is defensiveness. Some of the reaction is from well-meaning
people who worry about others being hurt.
However, you cannot fix a problem without first addressing it. I know some will find my attitude callous or
unsympathetic. However, it is coming
from one who is dealing with the same thing.
I’m worse than some and not nearly as bad as others. Yet, the challenge is the same even if the
scale is not. Shakespeare said that a
rose is still a rose no matter what you call it. So it is with the concept of being fat. It does not help to run from a name.
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