A happy childhood is poor preparation
for human contacts.
Colette, 19th-century French writer
Colette, 19th-century French writer
A happy childhood has spoiled many a
promising life.
Robertson Davies, 20th-century
Canadian writer
About
seven years ago, I worked with my mentor and friend at my previous school to
learn more about the history of the community.
To do so, we flipped through and studied past senior yearbooks, which
thankfully stretched back to the 1910s.
For anyone who has done so, one is struck by a single observation – the
fact that the teenagers appear to be adults.
I think, in comparison and by every definition, students today appear
and act younger. Over the last five
years, I’ve assisted a good friend and colleague in taking students to Germany
and hosting German students in the U.S.
Once more, I’m struck by the maturity (both in appearance and actions)
of the Germans. Between these two
experiences and over an 18-year teaching career, it is apparent that the way we
treat and handle children and teenagers is ultimately doing them a
disservice.
One
of the refrains I hear the most, particularly within my capacity as a teacher,
is the concern that issue “A” is too much stress and responsibility upon
younger people. I have heard
administrators and teachers alike mention high school students as
children. It is the culmination of our
attitude towards them and what we expect from them. We see them as helpless, as someone to be
coddled and protected. Therefore, we
protect them from bad grades, failing grades and being held back a year. The infantilization of our students is
realized in the students’ perception of their own abilities.
As
has often been cited in international studies, American students have high
opinions of themselves and their potential but produce very little. It is the end result of our coddling. We pump students up with praise at the drop
of a hat, take away all possibility of failure and in the end, we get a gaggle
of cocky ne’er-do-wells. Everything the
education system does is designed to create immediate results and little to no
thought is given to the long-range impact of these decisions.
The
second feature of this condition is the child-centric approach to parenting,
marketing and the like. Modern family
psychologists talk of the importance of praise and finding worth in everything
the child says and does. The fear of
damaging self-esteem has created, in some cases, some intolerable people to be
around. It is not the students’ fault
but it is a problem that we adults have created. The question is what should be done? Unfortunately, many people don’t see the
problem. If we cannot show people the
problem, there is no hope of reaching a better path.
Compounding
the problem of officials, teachers and parents not recognizing the problem is
the fact that they try to demonize those who object to their education
philosophy. Over my career, I and others
like me have tried to make the point that we need to take a different approach
to students. What we receive is the criticism
that we don’t like children, we want them to fail, etc. They have no argument to back up their
philosophy so the only thing left is to create a moral argument with reformers
playing the role of the boogeyman. They
attempt to invalidate our position, not with a cogent argument of their own but
with demagoguery. It is frustrating and
irritating. It is one thing to have a
discussion or debate and to fail to convince or convert others. It is another thing to be discounted
altogether and to be characterized as antithetical to your true beliefs. I care for my students and want what is best
for them. The current environment is not
it.
Martin
Buber, the German philosopher and writer, once said that teachers must focus on
teaching the adult the child will become.
Even pop-psychologists like the late Steven Covey preached the idea of
keeping the end in mind. We as teachers
and administrators cannot make decisions with regards to students based on what
is best for them now. Rather, we must
consider the impact on the adult they will become. The more we infantilize our
students/children, the greater challenges we place before them as adults.